collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2022-01-06 02:00 pm

Welcome

Welcome to Second Row, a place for Catholic women who are orthodox and faithful but who don’t quite fit the “mold” of the normal Catholic lifestyle. We may be single career women who never met the right person; we may be converts or reverts who have a not-so-savory past; we may even be lesbians who are choosing to live consistent with the teachings on chastity and celibacy. We might be widows with grown children; or married but childless and done with fertility treatments; or even just the sole Catholic amidst a family of non-Catholics.

Whoever we are, we’re working out our relationships with God and the Church as best we can; but we often feel invisible and excluded simply because there are so few of us and our parishes don’t have the resources to minister to such a small population. While we recognize that, it doesn’t cure the loneliness that comes at times or help us find our place within the parish and the Church.

Keep Reading... )

collingwest: (little sun)
2022-01-04 10:00 am

Welcome

Welcome to Radius!

I’ve worked in the field of employee benefits since 1999: first in human resources offices in both government and private industry; and then on the broker side focusing on small businesses. During that time, I’ve seen a clear need for better consumer education. That’s what this blog is all about: providing a resource for benefits information, using clear language that anyone — regardless of their level of expertise or experience — can read and understand.

Topics on the blog will include all aspects of employee benefits; while the focus will be primarily on health & welfare benefits, other topics such as total compensation and retirement benefits will occasionally be covered. Keep Reading... )

collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2021-11-30 06:58 pm

Finding a Solution

It was a long, long weekend for me as I was busy trying to redo the organization and URLs of my web site. Unfortunately, it took me three days (and a combined six hours on the Chat feature) with my web host* to figure out that they don’t support WP Multisite. Since I’m talking about a small personal site here, I couldn’t justify the cost of a developer or even upgraded hosting options that including some customized SSL solutions.

Fortunately, I stumbled onto Infinite WP yesterday night. Keep Reading... )

collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2021-10-29 05:00 pm

…and Away We Go!

Skull with Autumn Flowers

Skull with Autumn Flowers
Credit: Joey Velaszquez via Pixabay

Well, here we are, folks; as of this coming weekend I will have had the blog re-started for a month without any “misses” in the entry schedule. Having a theme for this month’s entries — they were a series of posts introducing readers to the blog — has helped tremendously. I am indebted to Harsh Agrawal for his post that sparked the idea for leading off with this particular set of posts.

In fact, having a theme has worked so well that I’ve already picked out themes for both November and December. During those two months, I’m going to simultaneously explore the various strands of spirituality within the Church, while also blogging my way through some of the trends seen in this year’s open enrollment season. With these posts, I’m also going to start doing some self-promotion, since my ultimate goal is to build a blog that readers find valuable as opposed to an echo chamber. The best way to do that is to see which posts get the most comments and views.

For the two or three of you who have already started reading regularly: thank you! For everyone else, who will likely find this post well after it’s been put up, I hope this series of posts has clarified a few things here and there. If not, or even if so but you still have something to say, please feel free to drop me a line and let me know.

Have a great Samhain, Halloween, Día de Los Muertos or Triduum of the Dead — or whatever else you may be celebrating this weekend. And here’s to next month!

Originally posted at https://collingwest.blog/2021/and-away-we-go/.

collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2021-10-26 10:00 am

Interacting with This Blog

Wordpress UI Page

Back End Page for Adding New Posts in WordPress
Credit: Werner Moser via Pixabay

I’ve mentioned the idea of building community in several of my last posts. Today, I’m going to focus on how readers can do just that, right here at this blog. There are several options for readers who want to take the next step: commenting, sending messages, reposting the content elsewhere, and interacting with me on social media.

The first, and perhaps most important, aspect of this blog’s community features is the fact that I welcome comments of nearly all types: supportive, skeptical and even silly. The only exception to this rule is that I’m not interested in either “spam” comments (as of this writing I’ve already had to delete a handful) or comments whose sole purpose is self-promotion. For this reason, in my Comments & Contacts terms I request that comments remain on-topic. I should clarify, though, that my definition of “on topic” is pretty broad; as a general rule, if a commenter is behaving themselves, chances are good that I’ll approve the comment. The definition of “good behavior” is also fairly broad, but to be clear, I don’t tolerate verbal attacks, defamation or harassment. Further, in most cases, I will report illegal content to the appropriate authorities.

For those who are not comfortable participating in comments — or who would like to request that I write about something specific — I also have a Contact Form which readers may use to send an email. All contacts will get a response within three or four days. Please note that there’s a question on the form asking permission to quote the email in a blog post. Make sure you answer it, because I assume that emails and messages about the blog, or its content, can be quoted on the blog. I’ll need to know if that’s not the case for your message. There’s also an option where I’ll quote you, but without attribution.

Another way to interact is to repost my content elsewhere. As a general rule, if you aren’t doing it for profit and if you attribute the material (preferably with a link back to the site), I do not have any problem with that; in fact, I consider it a compliment so let me say “thank you” in advance! This said, I have no patience for plagiarism and content theft; both will result in repercussions to the full extent of what I am allowed to do. Further, if I catch someone “hotlinking,” I may change the link in question in order to corrupt the intent. For any of these behaviors, I may also contact the violator’s site host to alert them about my objections.

I do not mind links to the blog so long as it is understood that (a) I will only reciprocate with a link back if I find your content compelling and (b) I’m not endorsing anything by linking to it. I also don’t consider your link to me to be an endorsement, and don’t expect a link back if I link to you. If you discover I’m linking to you and would prefer I don’t, just let me know and I’ll take the link down.

Another common method of interaction on blogs is guest posts. As of right now, since I’m working on building my own content, I am not soliciting these. This may change in the future, however, so if you think your idea is absolutely spot-on or if you’re interested in something collaborative, drop me a line anyway. The worst that will happen is a polite “no, thank you.”

For those who are interested in interacting with me on social media, I’m most frequently found on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn; all of my profiles on these sites link back here and I can be found at those sites several times a week. To a lesser extent, I also participate on a few other social media sites, but as of right now, between this blog, my full-time job and the myriad other aspects of my life, my time is pretty well taken. As a result I don’t anticipate an increase in social media participation, beyond my current levels, anytime in the near future. I should also mention that Twitter is where I expect to do the majority of my interactions.

The bottom line is this: if you’d like to interact, please feel free to reach out. If you’d prefer to just read for right now, that’s fine too. I plan to start linking to and promoting this blog’s posts beginning November 1, and I’m excited to see what contacts and community may result!

Originally posted at https://collingwest.blog/2021/interacting-with-this-blog/.

collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2021-10-22 05:00 pm

Why Read This Blog?

Reaching Hands

Reaching Hands
Credit: Jackson David via Pixabay

I talked about my reasons for re-starting and writing the blog in an earlier post, but that topic begs the question: who would want to read this blog? What, exactly, am I trying to accomplish by using a blog to add to conversations and re-establish a community? Why not just become known as a commenter on other blogs, or various social media or writing sites? Isn’t starting your own site just a method of re-inventing a wheel — and one that smacks of control issues, at that?

I’ll admit that it might be. But I’ll also note that the one thing that I don’t see on many other sites is a way to post longer, thoughtful essays about topics of interest while simultaneously being able to continue those conversations in threads. Sites such as Substack and Medium are a good place for posting longer essays, but lack the community-in-response aspect. Social media sites are great for discussion of topics, but aren’t so great for posting the longer essays. I’m looking to do both: expand my writing from quick “sound bites” into actual readable posts, and to discuss them with others.

This leads back to the original model of the blogosophere: where the blog’s owner posts long essays that sometimes derive from comments on earlier posts; sometimes refer back to posts on other sites; and which sometimes also just are sparked by topics of interest. When I think about my personal and career goals, I realize that is the model I’ve always been pursuing; thus, it’s the best model to use for my pursuit of this goal.

Who would be interested in reading what I have to say, though?

The question and my definition of the goals lead to the answer: those who are seeking my commentary on topics of interest, which in my case range from human resources and employee benefits, to Catholic doctrine and matters that affect American Catholics, to less-serious cat posts and personal updates. Thus, the original core audience for the blog is my friends and family: the same people with whom I would start my community anyway.

Friends and family would just be the beginning, though. I’m interested in discussions with anyone whose interests coincide with mine, regardless of their opinion on the topic or their location. That’s what the Internet is best at, and that’s why I’m using the medium of the blogosophere instead of simply participating on other sites. This doesn’t mean I won’t do the latter; anything but, in fact! It does, however, mean that those who notice my comments elsewhere have a place to come see what I’m thinking and writing about in fuller depth. Thus, they would want to visit my particular blog.

In the past, I’ve used a model where I pull links from various sites, combine them into a post where I quote excerpts, and then add my own commentary or spin. I expect that at least half of my posts will be in this format. The other half will be essays sparked by events in offline life and experience. Some of that information may be intensely personal and of interest to few besides my friends and family. Some, though, may very well get the attention of someone whom I don’t already know.

Chances are that person would be someone I would like to know.

Ultimately, too, I’ll admit that since I would eventually like to become a professional writer, having a blog will both give me “clips” that I can show prospective employers and clients; and also represent a reason for regular practice of my craft. Readers may or may not be interested in helping me fulfill those particular goals, but there’s no point in writing only for myself, either. (That’s why I also have a personal journal that isn’t available to the public.) I look forward to getting feedback on what I write, and that can’t be done when the writing is never published or shared anywhere.

My hope is that, eventually, as my “voice” begins to settle into itself, this site will become not just a place where I showcase what I have to say, but also a place where others come to read interesting opinions, essays and comments. There’s an old saying that a plan is just a dream with a deadline. With time, patience and a lot of work, I intend to turn my hope into a dream and then into a plan. Come and join me!

Originally posted at https://collingwest.blog/2021/why-read-this-blog/.

collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2021-10-05 10:00 am

Why Re-Start the Blog?

Woman on Laptop with World Map in Background

Creating Community via Online Means
Credit: Gerd Altmann via Pixabay

This isn’t the first blog I’ve ever kept, or even the second, or the third. In fact, I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve stopped and re-started my blogging habit. Over the years I’ve waffled back and forth between keeping it up on a nearly-daily basis, posting just once or twice a week, and admitting that I’m not posting at all so I shut the blog down entirely. Over the past couple of years, I’ve tended toward the latter far more often than the former.

So why am I re-starting the blog anyway, if I know full well that I have difficulty keeping up the habit?

The personal answer is an easy one: because I’m a writer. I’ve been a writer for my entire life, beginning with my mother noticing the tendency when I was only three years old. Sometimes it has been fiction; sometimes it has been fan fiction; and sometimes it has been non-fiction. I’ve even dabbled some in poetry and songwriting, although I generally won’t share that with anyone but myself.

But that answers the question only on a personal level, and writing for yourself is better done in a journal versus a blog. So why am I re-starting a public blog, where I not only am sharing my words with the entire world, but I’m also opening myself up to significant criticism?

That answer’s a bit more complex, and because of that, less easy. The pat answer is that I feel like I have something to say to the world. It’s more than that, though. It’s that I write as a method of exploration, and often, the insights that come from that exploration are worth sharing. More than that, I use writing as a means of seeking and building community. I read as much as I write, and often my words are responses to others’ words.

Very few people would argue that our world today is sorely lacking in community. The COVID-19 pandemic has forced many people to isolate in circumstances where the only interaction comes in short spurts such as texts and Tweets. But even before then, community ties were breaking down. There are any number of theories as to why that happened, as well as any number of theories about how to respond.

I don’t have anything to add to the conversation about what happened. However, I have a considerable amount to add to conversations about re-establishing community among modern Americans. That will be the purpose of this blog: exploration and ideas about establishing community. This will take many different forms, but all of my posts will relate back to that single ideal.

This is a personal blog, and I don’t have any plans to monetize it or try to “turn pro.” That said, I will welcome opportunities to make guest posts and, sometime in the future, may even open my own blog up to the same. For right now, I’m simply going to re-start, plan my posts, and watch to see what emerges. I think I’ll be excited to find out what it turns out to be.

Originally posted at https://collingwest.blog/2021/why-re-start-the-blog/.

collingwest: (cartoon catherine)
2021-10-01 10:00 am

A Season for Planning

Covered Bridge, Stone Mountain, GA

Covered Bridge in Stone Mountain, GA
Credit: Paul Brennan via Pixabay

Today is October 1, the start of Fourth Quarter 2021; it’s fall in the Northern Hemisphere here in the Atlanta Metro area, this means that the days are warm but not hot; and the nights are cool but not cold. It’s a time of year when many of us roll our eyes as we discover that we need to use both the heating and air conditioning in our houses.

The weather is similar where I grew up, in Eastern North Carolina; as a result I have the tendency of most Southerners to consider anything below 50°F to be cold. But my favorite season is still fall, because it’s a time when activities start again. Over the summer, it often becomes far too hot and humid for all-day outdoor activities, and the nights give little relief. In the fall, though, it’s a good time to get outside.

In addition, fall is often the time when we are able to harvest the fruits of our labor, which brings joy regardless of the type of harvest it might be. This year, my harvest is not physical as I wasn’t able to keep up the garden over the summer. But I can still see harvest season in the length of the days, in the increased activity of my parish and the whole Church, and in my work. I can also see it in the many celebrations around me that started as traditions meant to give thanks for another good growing season.

Fall is also a time for thinking and planning about the seasons just ahead; this is most obvious for children who have just started back to school, but it exists elsewhere too. For employee benefits professionals like me, fall is open enrollment season: when we plan out and then implement the next year’s strategy for our clients and/or our employees. I’ve been working on my own open enrollment duties since mid-August when I developed the project plan.

Since it’s a season of planning, fall is also a season that’s all about priorities. This past July, I realized that mine had gotten rather out of order, and that both my personal and professional lives were suffering as a result. Since the professional life was the more pressing issue, I took care of that first. At the same time, though, I knew that the personal couldn’t be neglected in favor of the professional, especially since I don’t draw thick lines between the two.

The next step after planning, of course, is carrying out those plans: implementation and action. That’s why today is such a good day for re-starting my blog. I re-started my personal journal in mid-July, so I’ve already begun building up the habit of writing every day. Now, it’s time to re-start the public blog.

Right now, I’m starting with posts on Tuesdays and Fridays, but eventually I expect to be putting up posts every day. These first few entries will be about the blog itself: introducing it (and me!) to the world at large. From there, I have plans for several different topics. Keep watching this space to learn more!

Originally posted at https://collingwest.blog/2021/a-season-for-planning/.